“Men can’t commit” “Men can’t handle being in a relationship” “Men are scared of the responsibility”
Us poor men have taken quite the verbal beating from you women. So I want to set things straight and avoid these cringe worthy statements. In an unrelated manner, have you ever seen the movie ‘He’s just not that into you‘? haha anyway on with the article.
From a male perspective the answer to the question “Are men afraid of relationships?” is… NO. Although this could be because us men would never admit to being afraid of anything.
I believe every man has the capacity to commit and deep down they also want that feeling of love. Men take great joy in making their woman happy. When a man meets the right woman of course he will be prepared to commit. The main problem, however, is that men and women simply operate on different levels. Most women view the majority of men as being sex hungry animals with only one thing on their mind. Men on the other hand are always cautious that women are going to try to trap them and steal their freedom.
As you can imagine there is more often than not a conflict of interests. I heard a phrase once “Women need love to have sex. Men need sex to have love.” We are screwed from the start! We are just wired differently and it’s important to remember that in a relationship.
Some women want a boyfriend or serious relationship just to feel secure in who they are. They want a man just because they are not able to cope on their own. They don’t really care who the guy is… it’s not important. In the same way some women feel used after a one night stand or just a sexual encounter, men feel used when a woman tries to trap him in a ‘commitment’ which clearly only benefits her. A wise man will never allow himself to be trapped in a one sided relationship like this just so the woman can feel validated. He chooses not to enter the relationship because he realises it’s not worth it. Not because he is afraid. A less wise man(READ as horny), however, might enter the trap, have his way and abandon her once his feelings of sexual desire have gone 2-4 months down the line.
Here is an example of the different perspectives between men and women in a relationship: Imagine a young couple who have been happily together for about 5 months and she has a great idea “Hey honey, I think I should move in with you. Then we can see each other more often and save some money.” Of course from her perspective it’s a great move that helps solidify the relationship but from the guys perspective however… he’s only known her for 5 months!? And she wants to move in!? Tough decision because he is expected to sacrifice some of HIS personal freedom and personal space. Men have fought many a war in the name of freedom and now this man is supposed to just rollover and give it up. He might, understandably, say “No” or “I need think about it” to which of course the woman calls him a commitment phobe.
For me personally, I have always been very wary of even meeting a girl a second time if she hints at a relationship after one date. There is just something very unattractive about needy insecure women (and men). It’s like they are trying to escalate the emotional really quickly and trap you in a relationship that only she wants. Most of these women have nothing else going on in their lives and are desperate for the validation and connection that comes along with a relationship.
My advice for women would be to progress the relationship slowly. Just because you feel like moving the relationship forward doesn’t mean he is feeling the same way. The less pressure, guilt and obligation the better in the relationship the better. Make sure you have created your own successful life and that you are seeking out a serious relationship because you want to make your life even better!
Warning: If you try to meet guy at a bar or club it’s never going to work. They are only really interested in one night stands. To meet quality guys who are more open to relationships try a ThaiSpeedDating event. You won’t regret it!
I am liking the site, hope you have luck with things. That is true men are afraid of relationships if things have gone wrong with other relationships in the past, they are afraid of getting hurt again and this goes for women as well as I know.
Great to know how is man think about relationship. Yeah!!! “Women need love to have sex. Men need sex to have love.”
Keep your head up, your eyes open and find someone to be matching with you. Relax and take time.
So, LOVE is hard to design and I don’t know but I believe in Destiny.
Well I don’t accept you point that man need to have love. My dear Mia sex is not every thing in a relationship
and if you read Karma Sutera sex is the last part of love making and don’t say that man need woman for sex
normally mens a hungry of love and passion that’s my perception.
Sound like almost man like freedom life.
Women really love if man like to show he care about her.
Man + Women + Relationship(with the right one) + Stay together + Marry + family……Yeah!!! Relax & take time.